Dear Bren,

I’m not sure that talking to your friend will help, as it is unlikely that he would admit doing this, if in fact it did occur. Drugs often referred to as “date rape drugs” have been known to be put into one’s drink (typically at a party, without one’s knowledge) for the purpose of sexually assaulting someone. Because of this potential danger, it is important to never drink anything at a party from a container that you did not open yourself. If you step away from your drink, pour it out. Similar to having a designated driver, it is best to have a friend with you who is not drinking. This person can help make sure that you stay safe. If you feel drunk even though you had little or no alcohol, get help immediately.

The three drugs that are most commonly used are: Rophynol or “Roofies,” GHB (gamma hydroxybutyric acid), and Ketamine or “Special K.” While you suspect that this was done to you, it is important to remember that excessive alcohol can also cause blackouts. If you suspect that you have been given a date rape drug, it is important to go to your local emergency room immediately after to be evaluated to determine if you have been raped. If you shower, change clothes, or don’t go right away, this will make it more difficult for medical professionals to assess you. If evidence of a rape is discovered, the police need to be contacted. Anyone that has done this to you will likely do it to others, which is why it is important to contact the authorities. It is also important to seek counseling to deal with the emotional challenges that result for victims of sexual assault. You can also contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at (800) 656-HOPE for further assistance.