Dear Jordan,

I’m assuming that you and your girlfriend have a very close relationship, since you have been together for three years. I can understand how the prospect of being separated by different colleges can be upsetting. While it’s possible that the two of you could maintain a “long-distance relationship” there are a lot of challenges to that. Some would say that if it’s meant to be, you will find a way to maintain your relationship, even if at a distance.

It sounds like you truly care a lot about each other. If that’s the case, try to be a true friend to her and support her in getting into the school that will be the best fit for her--and do the same for yourself. Hopefully your efforts will pay off and you’ll get into the same college. If that’s not the case, however, do what you can to support your girlfriend during this challenging part of her life. If either of you chose the “wrong school” simply to be together, you wouldn’t truly be doing what is best for one another or yourself.